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不要對(duì)男人說(shuō)的話(huà)
在戀愛(ài)及婚姻的道路,女人總是要體會(huì)各種酸甜苦辣,吵鬧總是難免的,但如果你愛(ài)他,有八句話(huà)請(qǐng)別對(duì)你的他說(shuō)。
1)“我想談?wù)勎覀冎g的事”,因?yàn)閷?duì)男人而言,“我們”是最令人害怕的字眼,當(dāng)你提到“我們”時(shí),就暗示你和他的一體性,男人覺(jué)得討論感情是天下最麻煩的。當(dāng)女人提到此話(huà)題,可能什么地方有問(wèn)題而且是關(guān)于他的問(wèn)題。所以你要有智慧,要先找出問(wèn)題的所在,直接告訴他,而不是把情緒上的抱怨一股腦的拋給他,那樣只會(huì)使他莫名其妙或更生氣。
2)“如果你真的愛(ài)我……”男性感覺(jué)當(dāng)女人說(shuō)這句話(huà)時(shí),一定是自己又做錯(cuò)事了,這讓他感到充滿(mǎn)罪惡感,象這類(lèi)話(huà)只是一種發(fā)揮不了作用的威脅法,一開(kāi)始他會(huì)容忍你,但罪惡感變成憤怒時(shí),他會(huì)把你的話(huà)堵回去,應(yīng)該以建議的方式讓氣氛更加溫和,比如把“如果你愛(ài)我,就多花點(diǎn)時(shí)間陪我……”改成“是不是把你和朋友見(jiàn)面的時(shí)間從每天改成一星期一次,好讓我們有更多的時(shí)間共渡”。這樣會(huì)讓男人了解你的想法并覺(jué)得有接受的心情及討論的空間。
3)“你總是……/你從來(lái)不……”這兩句話(huà)好似定時(shí)炸彈,隨時(shí)可能把你和他的感情炸得面目全非。因?yàn)樗鼈円回炇潜г拐叩挠谜Z(yǔ)。若有問(wèn)題應(yīng)該坐下來(lái)好好談,讓他知道你的感受和建議,再詢(xún)問(wèn)他的看法,比如:“我有話(huà)要說(shuō),你看電視太久了,讓我覺(jué)得自己被冷落了”,語(yǔ)言是有藝術(shù)的,在愛(ài)人之間不講語(yǔ)言藝術(shù),只會(huì)造成無(wú)端的誤會(huì)和爭(zhēng)吵。
4)在性方面,不要說(shuō)“我不喜歡”或“你好差”。因?yàn)樗滥阍谶@方面給他打了低分,他會(huì)覺(jué)得自尊受到嚴(yán)重的傷害,別提令他喪氣的事,只說(shuō)出你喜歡的,比如“我喜歡你慢慢的來(lái)”,或是“你的溫柔讓我好舒服”委婉的告訴他你想要的,并讓快樂(lè)的部分使他信心大增。
5)“我想聽(tīng)聽(tīng)關(guān)于你過(guò)去女朋友的事”。假如你想與他擁有快樂(lè)時(shí)光,千萬(wàn)不要重提他的過(guò)去,因?yàn)檫@樣你會(huì)強(qiáng)迫他回憶。無(wú)論是對(duì)以前女友的懷念或是對(duì)以前不快樂(lè)的追憶,都是你不想要的,而且知道的越多,越會(huì)引發(fā)你的嫉妒,讓你自己先掉進(jìn)不能自拔的漩渦。所以,你只要珍惜現(xiàn)在的一切,讓他擁有自己的秘密吧!
6)“我好胖、丑、笨……”不要在你的愛(ài)人面前說(shuō)關(guān)于你缺點(diǎn)的話(huà),無(wú)論這是不是真的。因?yàn)檫@樣只會(huì)訓(xùn)練他如何批評(píng)你。他既然愛(ài)你,就會(huì)接受你的一切,讓他自己發(fā)現(xiàn)你的缺點(diǎn),假如不是原則問(wèn)題,他會(huì)聯(lián)想到你的優(yōu)點(diǎn)的,試著以欣賞的角度來(lái)看自己吧!其實(shí)你的他并沒(méi)有你對(duì)自己要求的那么苛刻。
7)“跟你講話(huà)真是毫無(wú)意義”。你是否覺(jué)得他無(wú)趣無(wú)味,或雜亂無(wú)章沒(méi)有重點(diǎn)。這時(shí)你不要爭(zhēng)執(zhí),不妨讓他有自覺(jué)能力。比如此時(shí)你停止與他討論,或不作任何表示,以你的沉默讓他警覺(jué)。
8)“我什么都不想說(shuō)”。女人有時(shí)常常不愿說(shuō)出自己想要的,而希望男人能夠解讀她們心里的期盼。而男人有時(shí)也是一樣。事實(shí)上要解決問(wèn)題,就要把它說(shuō)出來(lái),彼此揣度對(duì)方的心意,即辛苦又未必正確。所以說(shuō)出你的需求。男人就不會(huì)摸不著頭腦,并且告訴他,讓他以同樣的方式來(lái)與你交流,這樣倆人之間就不會(huì)總是抱怨,而是更加親密了。
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非常經(jīng)典有深度的電影英文臺(tái)詞
1.一個(gè)人總要走陌生的路,看陌生的風(fēng)景,聽(tīng)陌生的歌,然后在某個(gè)不經(jīng)意的瞬間,你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn),原本是費(fèi)盡心機(jī)想要忘記的事情真的就那么忘記了。
One is always on a strange road, watching strange scenery and listening to strange music. Then one day, you will find that the things you try hard to forget are already gone.
2.幸福,不是長(zhǎng)生不老,不是大魚(yú)大肉,不是權(quán)傾朝野。幸福是每一個(gè)微小的生活愿望達(dá)成。當(dāng)你想吃的時(shí)候有得吃,想被愛(ài)的時(shí)候有人來(lái)愛(ài)你。
Happiness is not about being immortal nor having food or rights in one's hand. It’s about having each tiny wish come true, or having something to eat when you are hungry or having someone's love when you need love.
3.愛(ài)情是燈,友情是影子,當(dāng)燈滅了,你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)你的周?chē)际怯白。朋友,是在最后可以給你力量的人。
Love is a lamp, while friendship is the shadow. When the lamp is off,you will find the shadow everywhere. Friend is who can give you strength at last.
4.我愛(ài)你不是因?yàn)槟闶钦l(shuí),而是我在你面前可以是誰(shuí)。
I love you not for who you are, but for who I am before you.
5.愛(ài)情,要么讓人成熟,要么讓人墮落。
Love makes man grow up or sink down.
6.舉得起放得下的叫舉重,舉得起放不下的叫負(fù)重?上В蠖鄶(shù)人的愛(ài)情,都是負(fù)重的。
If you can hold something up and put it down, it is called weight-lifting; if you can hold something up but can never put it down,it's called burden-bearing. Pitifully, most of people are bearing heavy burdens when they are in love.
7.我們每個(gè)人都生活在各自的過(guò)去中,人們會(huì)用一分鐘的時(shí)間去認(rèn)識(shí)一個(gè)人,用一小時(shí)的時(shí)間去喜歡一個(gè)人,再用一天的時(shí)間去愛(ài)上一個(gè)人,到最后呢,卻要用一輩子的時(shí)間去忘記一個(gè)人。
We all live in the past. We take a minute to know someone, one hour to like someone, and one day to love someone, but the whole life to forget someone.
8.一個(gè)人一生可以愛(ài)上很多的人,等你獲得真正屬于你的幸福之后,你就會(huì)明白一起的傷痛其實(shí)是一種財(cái)富,它讓你學(xué)會(huì)更好地去把握和珍惜你愛(ài)的人。
One may fall in love with many people during the lifetime. When you finally get your own happiness, you will understand the previous sadness is kind of treasure, which makes you better to hold and cherish the people you love.
9.年輕的時(shí)候會(huì)想要談很多次戀愛(ài),但是隨著年齡的增長(zhǎng),終于領(lǐng)悟到愛(ài)一個(gè)人,就算用一輩子的時(shí)間,還是會(huì)嫌不夠。慢慢地去了解這個(gè)人,體諒這個(gè)人,直到愛(ài)上為止,是需要有非常寬大的胸襟才行。
When you are young, you may want several love experiences. But as time goes on, you will realize that if you really love someone, the whole life will not be enough. You need time to know, to forgive and to love. All this needs a very big mind.
10.當(dāng)明天變成了今天成為了昨天,最后成為記憶里不emrowgh.com再重要的某一天,我們突然發(fā)現(xiàn)自己在不知不覺(jué)中已被時(shí)間推著向前走,這不是靜止火車(chē)?yán),與相鄰列車(chē)交錯(cuò)時(shí),仿佛自己在前進(jìn)的錯(cuò)覺(jué),而是我們真實(shí)的在成長(zhǎng),在這件事里成了另一個(gè)自己。
When tomorrow turns in today, yesterday, and someday that no more important in your memory, we suddenly realize that we are pushed forward by time. This is not a train in still in which you may feel forward when another train goes by. It is the truth that we've all grown up. And we become different.
11.離開(kāi)我就別安慰我,要知道每一次縫補(bǔ)也會(huì)遭遇穿刺的痛。
If you leave me, please don't comfort me because each sewing has to meet stinging pain.
12.曾經(jīng)擁有的,不要忘記。不能得到的,更要珍惜。屬于自己的,不要放棄。已經(jīng)失去的,留作回憶。
Don’t forget the things you once you owned. Treasure the things youcan’t get. Don't give up the things that belong to you and keep those lost things in memory.
13.我喜歡并習(xí)慣了對(duì)變化的東西保持著距離,這樣才會(huì)知道什么是最不會(huì)被時(shí)間拋棄的準(zhǔn)則。比如愛(ài)一個(gè)人,充滿(mǎn)變數(shù),我于是后退一步,靜靜的看著,直到看見(jiàn)真誠(chéng)的感情。
I love and am used to keeping a distance with those changed things.Only in this way can I know what will not be abandoned by time. For example, when you love someone, changes are all around. Then I step backward and watching it silently, then I see the true feelings.
14.男人的愛(ài)是俯視而生,而女人的愛(ài)是仰視而生。如果愛(ài)情像座山,那么男人越往上走可以俯視的女人就越多,而女人越往上走可以仰視的男人就越少。
Men love from overlooking while women love from looking up. If love is a mountain, then if men go up, more women they will see while women will see fewer men.
15.好的愛(ài)情是你通過(guò)一個(gè)人看到整個(gè)世界,壞的愛(ài)情是你為了一個(gè)人舍棄世界。
Good love makes you see the whole world from one person while bad love makes you abandon the whole world for one person.
16.在自己面前,應(yīng)該一直留有一個(gè)地方,獨(dú)自留在那里。然后去愛(ài)。不知道是什么,不知道是誰(shuí),不知道如何去愛(ài),也不知道可以愛(ài)多久。只是等待一次愛(ài)情,也許永遠(yuǎn)都沒(méi)有人?墒,這種等待,就是愛(ài)情本身。
We shall always save a place for ourselves, only for ourselves. And then begin to love. Have no idea of what it is, who he is, how to love or how long it will be. Just wait for one love. Maybe no one will come out, but this kind of waiting is the love itself.
17.有誰(shuí)不曾為那暗戀而痛苦?我們總以為那份癡情很重,很重,是世上最重的重量。有一天,暮然回首,我們才發(fā)現(xiàn),它一直都是很輕,很輕的。我們以為愛(ài)的很深,很深,來(lái)日歲月,會(huì)讓你知道,它不過(guò)很淺,很淺。最深和最重的愛(ài),必須和時(shí)日一起成長(zhǎng)。
Is there anyone who hasn't suffered for the secret love? We always think that love is very heavy, heavy and could be the heaviest thing in the world. But one day, when you look back, you suddenly realize that it's always light, light. We all thought love was very deep, but in fact it's very thin. The deepest and heaviest love must grow up withthe time.
18.在這個(gè)世界上,只有真正快樂(lè)的男人,才能帶給女人真正的快樂(lè)。
In this world, only those men who really feel happy can give women happiness
19.女人如果不性感,就要感性;如果沒(méi)有感性,就要理性;如果沒(méi)有理性,就要有自知之明;如果連這個(gè)都沒(méi)有了,她只有不幸。
If a woman is not sexy, she needs emotion; if she is not emotional, she needs reason; if she is not reasonable, she has to know herself clearly. coz only she has is misfortune.
20.一段不被接受的愛(ài)情,需要的不是傷心,而是時(shí)間,一段可以用來(lái)遺忘的時(shí)間。一顆被深深傷了的心,需要的不是同情,而是理解。
An unacceptable love needs no sorrow but time- sometime for forgetting.A badly-hurt heart needs no sympathy but understanding.
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